Monday, December 25, 2006

Christmas in Wakarusa ( with Uncle Keith )

I write about the Etsinger traditions more often than the Eby traditions but after reading some of my brother's blogs about the Eby Family, I think that it is important to document some of my perspectives as well.

I wonder what Keith, Mom and Dad all think when every gift opening is followed by intense game playing.

Every year, at every age, the kids have amazed me at how intensely they compete with each other and with Uncle Keith. They normally are competitive, but somehow or the other, their view of Keith being the ultimate game player and their ability to win with him on their team is like adrenaline to their competitive spirit.

This year, Jackie got Cranium for Uncle Keith and we all dove into the game that afternoon. ( OK, Keith has an effect on me, too. And Jackie never needs a reason to play a game to its finish no matter who wins )

Keith only has a short time each year to influence the kids but he is very effective in that short period of time. I was really impressed this year at how he responded to Adam's comment to Carmen about getting a new and better iPod because he destroyed last year's model. Keith quickly pointed out that Carmen now had the chance to have an iPod AND a new gift.

Opening that new gift brought a smile to Carmen's face and provided yet another life lesson to Adam. Adam likes to collect life lessons from many sources....

Adam then proceeded to teach Uncle Keith how to shoot paintball guns at objects that would have grounded Keith for several weeks if he were Adam's age.

The target on the right side is a fungus that is growing on one of Dad's trees. This is a target that is marginally appropriate because it will be a constant reminder to Grandma and Grandpa that "Adam was here" ( Good ) but will also be a concern that it will damage the tree.

The target on the left side is one I never would have attempted as a child. Keith wisely claimed that he was not good enough to hit the post and that Adam was the only one who could.

All and all, it was a great Christmas for the Eby family.

I'm not sure why Carmen and I get a reputation of "not smiling", but I'll accept that it is true. Many people think that I look disappointed when I am just thinking and many people think that Carmen is deep in thought when she is just listening or observing. Carmen perfected the "furrowed brow" look at a very young age.



Christmas Card 2006



This is our 19th Christmas letter in 21 seasons of Christmas as husband and wife. Remembering our Savior and sharing our lives with each other is a great way to end every year.


This has been a difficult year for Jackie’s side of the family.


Early in the year, we learned that Jackie’s mother’s battle with cancer was not over. This year, her healing came in the form of a new body for Ruby. Much of Jackie and Becca’s summer was in Indiana spending precious time with Grandma and Grandpa and the rest of the family.


For a family that is steeped in traditions of laughter, activity, fellowship and helping others, this was a very different summer. One full of tears, comfort, pain, prayer and song. Don’t get me wrong, there was plenty of stress, but it was always balanced with promise and hope.


Over Thanksgiving, we continued on with the Etsinger traditions without Grandma with joy and sorrow. Each of the daughters helped Grandpa with the meal and Aunt Shirley brought balloons to send off with a message of thanks associated with the privilege of knowing Ruby as a wife, mother or grandmother.


The community response in Wakarusa and Nappanee brought back fond memories. We miss it dearly and have questioned our placement in Lexington more this year than ever before.


But now we look to the new. The new year, a new marriage Stephanie ( Jackie’s niece ) married Peter in the spring and new life as we take Ruby’s role of dropping subtle hints about finding suitable partners, getting married and starting families like hers and her children’s.


In this season of Christmas, we pray that you have the grace, peace and hope that Christ offers before, during and after death. ENJOY LIFE NOW!

Christmas Card 2006 - Kevin & Jackie

Old School: TRADITIONAL, RESOLVED, COMMITTED, DEDICATED, INSATIABLE, GROWING UP AN ACTIVE FAMILY

A few years ago, Jackie and I determined that we were going to take our first cruise together on our 20th anniversary.

Instead, God intended for us to spend our 20th in Wakarusa with family and we enjoyed a dinner at Cook’s Pizza. Several meals alone with Grandpa during this time taught me a lot about love and marriage. The cruise will have to wait. Maybe on our 25th anniversary.

I’ve been spending more time in fellowship at church playing Ultimate Frisbee and demonstrating my age by the number of recurring injuries that I can amass.

Jackie is looking forward to next year when she can cross elementary school off of her places to be active.

She will continue to help out at the Middle and High School wherever help is needed, but that is not as demanding as Elementary School.

Christmas Card 2006 - Carmen

High School: VOLLEYBALL, FCA, YOUTH, VOLLEYBALL, HOMEWORK, STUDYING, CLOSE FRIENDS, AIM

After graduation from Southern Middle School with all A’s, Carmen’s first semester at Tates Creek High School has gone very well. She is working very hard in several challenging classes (Geometry and Earth Space). She is also looking into an international diploma program that will keep the challenges coming.

The Freshmen Volleyball team at TCHS had only 6 players this year, so there were no substitutions, no absences, no excuses. Carmen received the defensive MVP award at the end of their 13-4 season. A growing experience.

Carmen is starting her third season in club volleyball and has accepted a position on the second team of a higher age level. We are excited about the competition and opportunity for development at that level.

Carmen remains active in her youth group at church. She had a great time at Dare2Share and at B.A.S.I.C. Training Camp.

Christmas Card 2006 - Adam

Middle School: BASEBALL, DRUMMING, YOUTH, ONE-WAY, FOOTBALL, CHEERING, DANCING, SOCIALIZING, PAINTBALL, TALKING, MYSPACE, TSA, AIM.

This was Adam’s final year of Cal Ripken baseball and he decided to accept a position on the all-star team. Had we known that Grandma would be heading to the hospital and hospice so quickly, we may have turned that down.

Adam graduated from Tide football to Southern Middle School football. He made the A team as a seventh grader and is looking forward to next year.

Adam has grown at least 6 inches in the last few months and is now taller than both his mother and his older sister, but not as tall as his feet.

Adam has grown socially in leaps and bounds. He relates to people of all ages and was really challenged by the Dare2Share conference at the beginning of 2006. He’s looking forward to another year of impacting lives for Christ.

Adam has played 10 different percussion instruments for 6 different crowds in 7 days this week. He is not afraid of anything.

Christmas Card 2006 - Becca

Elementary School: AMERICAN GIRL, ANIMAL LOVER, TV, PURPLE, PARTIES, SHOPPING, FRIENDS, DOG PARK

Becca still loves to play, but is starting to move away from the dolls a little bit and starting to be more concerned about her own clothes.

After dragging Carmen to the malls for years, Jackie has been having fun taking Becca to some of the stores that they can enjoy together.

Becca loves being with her friends from church, school and Girl Scouts. She loves to talk and has been told that she has her mother’s laugh!

During the summer, Becca spent more time at the hospital and nursing home than anyone else in our family. Those memories will be with her for a lifetime.

She has found a new favorite pastime of going with Robin and her four dogs to the dog park. To further develop her animal lover heart, she has an interview program on the school video news show. She interviews pets and their owners.

Thursday, December 21, 2006

Christmas Letter

I've been on vacation this week and catching up with shopping and end of the year activities at home, church and work.

On Tuesday, Jackie and I decided that we had time to squeeze the Christmas letter in before Christmas (unlike last year), so we made a mad blitz and completed it in less than 48 hours. Writing the first word on Tuesday night to mailing the last letter on Thursday afternoon. We are still personally handing out a few of them to neighbors and friends with cookies, but I'm considering the job done.

Jackie actively participated in the editing process, and contributed significantly in the writing.

Special recognition goes to Adam this year. He edited, folded, glued, stamped and mailed approximately 180 letters. I really enjoy working with someone that pushes me as hard as I push him.

So... If you are on the list, the letter is in the mail

Friday, December 15, 2006

School Spirit

When Adam starting taking drum lessons over two years ago, Michael Harrington warned us that he would begin to get in trouble at school for tapping his desk with pencils, stomping his feet and general disruption associated with the rhythm in his head.

This week, in addition to several band concerts, he is also been stomping out a beat with the Southern Middle School student section. Tonight, he and Kyle convinced their principal to demonstrate her school spirit by stomping with them.

Thursday, December 14, 2006

Southern Band Concert



Last year at the Southern Band concert, Adam played some really fun songs on the bells and some jazz on a drum set. This year, he added the kettle drum and the chimes. I really liked the chimes in the song they chose.

The first set was the combined percussion from the 6th, 7th and 8th grade. Adam played the snare for this song. On Monday, Adam and the rest of the Southern Middle percussion section will be performing with the Tates Creek High School percussion section at the Singletary Performing Arts Center at UK. We're looking forward to that.

We sat with the Cornett's and were asked to help count how many times Olivia rolled her eyes. I captured one in this picture.

The City - Our last entrepreneur

Tomorrow afternoon, Jackie will move the last refrigerator box to a VPE City. Becca's group entrepreneurial project is a Hair and Nail Salon. The pink polka dot patterns should grab lots of attention.

Jackie and I helped the kids paint their booth in our garage last weekend while it was 15 degrees outside. Since it is 60 degrees today and this weekend, I'm sure they wish they would have procrastinated. My garage floor is pink now and so are the old T shirts that Jackie loaned them.

Becca worked with a group of six girls on the project and they have a tight schedule for selling manicures, face paintings, hand made jewelry and other strictly girl stuff.

We'll see how they do given that they have eliminated half of their potential market.

Monday, December 11, 2006

Neighborhood Vandals - Aarghh!

Last Friday afternoon, while walking home from school, Adam noticed that someone had knocked over some Christmas decorations in an older couple's yard. He stopped to set them up and continued on his way home wondering why anyone would do such a thing. ( He helps set up the Christmas decorations at our house and knows it takes time to get it all working just right )

When we moved into our house 6 years ago, it came with an adjustable basketball goal. That goal saw some good usage in the first 6 years, but this summer, someone decided to dunk the ball and hang on the rim. After that demonstration, the goal hung at 30 degrees for the remainder of the summer.

Adam decided to fix the goal on Saturday with my bar clamp.

That very evening, between 11:30 and 12:00, Buster started barking at something. Normally, Jackie gets up to pound on the window to make Buster stop, but she didn't this time. We woke up on Sunday morning and suspected that Buster was barking at some boys that were out "Deer Tipping", since our two Christmas deer were laying on their sides.

On Sunday night, when it got dark there were at least 6 houses that discovered that their Christmas lights had been snipped. Apparently, these "Deer Tipping" boys were also carrying wire cutters or hedge clippers. They cut a lot of wires in a very short time.

Within an hour, Jackie called the omsbudsman that normally calls us about Adam's fort and Buster's barking and told him that we are going to sharpen Buster's teeth and teach him to bark louder. I also suggested to Jackie and one of the neighbors that our whole neighborhood pack up our lights, take down our Christmas trees, and give away all the boys toys to boys in other neighborhoods.

12 hours later, I think we'll just get new Christmas lights and pray for the boys, whoever they are.

Saturday, December 09, 2006

Starting a Christmas Letter (not)

It is going to be tough to start the Christmas letter this year. I am certain that the things that we have learned about Bud and Ruby, ourselves, and our family will be the majority of the letter, but I just can't get started today.

Instead, I continued to add recipes to the blog that I started for the family to continue traditions of love, service family and food that Ruby modeled so well.

Ruby's recipes

Thursday, December 07, 2006

Freakonomics

I just finished reading a book that was given to me by a friend who thought I might enjoy it. The title of the book is Freakonomics and the authors, Steven D. Levitt (economist) and Stephen J. Dubner (writer), present their data on many topics from an economists point of view.

He basically places himself selfishly into any set of rules and determines what the factors are that are most likely to be measurable and then looks for data that supports his theory. Sort of an anti-scientist.

I'm looking forward to future books where Steven can prove some of my life long theories correct. [ Sun screen is a hoax, Cholesterol is a hoax, Dental fillings are a hoax, .... ]

The book is rivoting...

Here is something to think about in terms of Natural Selection. Some of the most famous proponents of Natural Selection to date are Adolf Hitler ( to eliminate Jews ), Pharaoh ( to eliminate Moses ), Charles Darwin ( to eliminate defects [ anyone not like Darwin ] ), King Herod ( to eliminate Jesus the Christ ).

Freakonomics presents a very strong case that the United States has actually exceeded all of those proponents in terms of results starting with Roe Vs. Wade. By killing a statistically significant number of unwanted babies before they are born, we have very inefficiently eliminated a fraction of the violent criminals that would have existed. I don't recall the exact inefficiency that Steven stated but it was something like "for every 100 babies killed, we eliminate one violent criminal before he is born". The only reason that this had any impact on violent crime was because of the huge number of babies that were killed over many, many years.

Darwin would have been proud of the United States.