Christmas Card 2005 - Adam

Adam continues to work hard on the things he enjoys. He has been taking drumming lessons for nearly two years. The highlight of his career so far is the chance to play for the worship band at church during a youth led service.

He has been helping his Dad set up the music equipment every Sunday morning for five years so he is very familiar with all the work that goes into music. He occasionally mixes the music on Sunday as well.

Football is also a passion. After an undefeated season and winning a hard fought double elimination tournament in 2004, the 2005 season tested the Tide as the team moved up an age group. Adam will likely never forgive his father for letting him miss the NWHS State Football Championship Game. He still dreams of playing for NW some day.

As a 6th grader Adam is in the youth group. He is more laid back about school than Carmen, but still does well.

He's also been playing minor league baseball with the Pirates, minor league is less practice and more fun. All the neighborhood boys play on different teams in the minors, so it is more social and exercise than it is baseball fundamentals.

Christmas Card 2005 - Becca

Becca loves American Girl dolls and thanks to her Uncle Keith and a very publicized desire to collect more, she has enough stuff to keep her busy. The whole gang frequently watches Disney with her on the couch. Buster even wears the horse saddle occasionally.

Becca is doing very well in 4th grade and has a great teacher who makes learning fun. (Kentucky teacher of the year a few years ago)

She continues to participate in the Girl Scouts and adores horses (and all other animals). This summer she was able to go to a horse camp with another girl from her troop.

Her Uncle Bill is convinced that we need to move to a horse farm somewhere, but that option hasn’t presented itself to us yet.

Becca is now in her second year of Upward Basketball. She loves the exercise, competition and fellowship associated with basketball.

The most significant thing to happen in Becca's entire life on this planet occured in February during Upward Basketball season when she brought her Upward Bible down to me on Sunday night to tell me that she wanted to accept Christ's gift of salvation to her.

After we prayed together, the whole family "interviewed" her to make sure that she understood the change that had occurred from the old to the new.

In September, Jackie's mom and dad were able to travel down to Kentucky to see Becca get baptized.

Etsinger Christmas 2005

Every year for I'm guessing around 20 years, the Etsinger grandchildren have piled onto a couch for a picture near the Christmas tree. When Carmen was a baby, they all had trouble making her smile, and every year there has been something funny about the assembly, but this year with nearly half of the grandchildren married or engaged, it just didn't happen.

Tradition is good for a time, for a season, but there are reasons to move on. For those of us who gathered there, it was good to see a shift of the attention from the grandchildren to the grandparents.

Ruby just finished her cancer treatments, was fighting bronchitis, but still putting all of us first as she always does, just with less energy and more sacrifice. We all continue to learn a great deal from this tremendous lady.

Christmas memories that will last forever

I'm reading a book about leaving a legacy as a Father and it has encouraged me to keep on recording things and sounding like a drone to my children as I tell them the same things over and over again. Sometimes I wonder if they appreciate it... especially when they make fun of the way that my voice puts them to sleep. (hinting at boredom)

Back to the book "Letters from Dad". I haven't finished the book yet, but the premise so far is this, write things down, record them, present them well, and save them forever. The testimonies in this book about the results of a well presented gift are amazing. I just received a well presented gift in the form of a Christmas card from my youngest daughter, Becca.

I was just thinking about how special it was that she took the time to write out a colorful card with a custom message that encourage me at the same time that it was exercising her God given, inherited gift of writing letters. ( Her Grandma Etsinger puts us all to shame in the "letters per day" measurement )

Later, I discovered that this was a "Form Card". Carmen's guinnea pig "Moe" received a similar card, as did Adam's crab "Gary". I haven't seen the one to our dog but I'm sure she did not leave him out.

It is still my favorite Christmas gift so far.

On that very first Christmas, a Boy was born

As I reflect on this year and look forward to Christmas, I am reminded of one of the best books that I read this year entitled "Wild at Heart" by John Eldredge. In his book, he describes the male characteristics as those that were placed there by God.

As I watch my son, Adam, grow up... in wisdom, stature and knowledge. Sometimes, I wonder if he will survive and then again, sometimes I hope that my girls (Carmen and Becca) are able to find a young man that is as "Wild at Heart" as he is.

Steven Curtis Chapman wrote a song about another boy that was "Wild at Heart" that always makes my heart leap as I listen to it near Christmas time. This baby was the baby that gave us all the joy of Christmas, and family, and purpose, and the heart to be wild.

This Baby

Well, He cried when He was hungry,
Did all the things that babies do;
He rocked and He napped on His mother’s lap,
And He wiggled and giggled and cooed.
There were the cheers when He took His first step,
And the tears when He got His first teeth;
Almost everything about this little baby
Seemed as natural as it could be.

But this baby made the angels sing,
And this baby made a new star shine in the sky.
This baby had come to change the world.
This baby was God’s own son, this baby was like no other one.
This baby was God with us, this baby was Jesus.

And this baby grew into a young boy,
Who learned to read and write and wrestle with dad;
There was the climbin’ of trees and the scrapin’ of knees,
And all the fun that a boy’s born to have.
He grew taller and some things started changing,
Like His complexion and the sound of His voice;
There was work to be done as a carpenter’s son
And all the neighbors said He’s such a fine boy.

But this boy made the angels sing,
And this boy made a new star shine in the sky.
This boy had come to change the world.
This boy was God’s own son, this boy was like no other one.
This boy was God with us. This boy became a man,

And love made Him laugh and death made Him cry.
With the life that He lived and the death that He died,
He showed us heaven with His hands and His heart,
‘Cause this man was God’s own son.
This man was like no other one,
Holy and human right from the start.

This baby was God with us, this baby, this baby was Jesus; this baby was Jesus, this baby was Jesus.

A matter of perspective....

While you admire the beautiful landscape of this horizon, notice that without perspective you really have no idea how big things really are. I was never able to capture a good photograph of a sunset over this horizon, but it was absolutely gorgeous.


If I place a few people in the foreground of the scene, you start to imagine the size of these islands, but it really doesn't fill in all the blanks.

To really know these islands, you must go there. One day, we climbed aboard a boat and headed out to those islands at what seemed to be a high rate of speed. We traveled for an hour to reach them, enjoying every minute of the sunny, windy, wave tossed trip.

The same thing can be said of many things in life, you must go there to gain the proper perspective.

A new painting every morning...

One of the most significant paintings that I have ever seen is painted by God every morning at the top of Haleakala.

Our family got up at 3:00 AM one morning and drove a few hours to experience just one of those sunrises over the clouds of Haleakala. The beauty of that moment can be described by this photograph, but the crispness of the cold, pure, thin air up there is lost in these two dimensions.

God paints a unique sunrise in this spot 365 days a year, year after year, no matter what we are doing or where we are. Most of us are called to live our lives under the clouds, but pictures like these give us great hope.

Wakarusa Rejected the Eby Tree....

Well, I spoke to mom and dad today and they explained to me the problem that the Wakarusa Fire Department had when they cut off the top 15 feet of the Eby tree.

Apparently the trunk of the top 15 feet was still 15 inches in diameter and would not fit into the tree stand for the town square.

As I reflect back over the life of this tree, I recall a time long before airsoft guns, way before paintball, before laser tag was even a thought. Back in the 70's Todd Crist would stand at the top of the hill behind our house with a BB gun and shoot at Scott Crist who was running as fast as he could to get behind that very pine tree.

Scott had a huge welt on his leg after that incident.

Photo Courtesy of Gene Klein in 2003

Starting a Christmas Letter

We took a year off from the Christmas letter last year and therefore have many topics to choose from in this year's letter to get you caught up on the lives of the Eby's.

• Two seasons of Storm Volleyball ( Carmen )
• Two seasons of Tide Football ( Adam )
• Jackie's sister's miraculous recovery ( Cheryl, Bill, Jackie, Carmen, many others )
• Becca accepting Christ as her savior ( Becca )
• Becca's Baptism ( Becca and Dad )
• Two years of drum lessons ( Adam )
• Two years of school ( Carmen, Adam and Becca )
• Graduation from elementary school ( Adam )
• Beta Club trip to Chicago ( Carmen )
• One complete season of Bluegrass Area Volleyball Association ( Carmen )
• The start of a second season of BAVA
• NorthWood Class of '84 20 year reunion at Amish Acres ( Kevin, Becca )
• Jackie turning 40
• Kevin turning 40
• Kevin's Dad turning 80 ( not retired yet )
• Kevin's brother's retirement ( at age 37 )
• Two vacations in Indiana for the 4H fair
• Vacation in Maui

Each person in our family has a favorite memory from each item on this list as the events mark milestones along the path of our lives together.

This year has been very difficult for a number of reasons. Change is always difficult and it is especially difficult for those of us that like to maintain traditions. One of the many things I have observed in this year of us parents "turning 40" is that our friends are gaining wisdom and our children are growing up. That might seem as basic and obvious as gravity to some, but for people like Jackie and I that always expect more from each other and those around us, this is an answer to prayer that deserves a moment to celebrate.

While Jackie and Becca are decorating the tree with the sound of Point of Grace Christmas music, this seems like as good of a time as any.

How tall is this Christmas Tree?

If you make a trip to downtown Wakarusa this season, you can see the top part of the tree on the left.

I've included a handy "Carmen Scale" so that you can figure out how tall this 40 year old tree is as long as you know that Carmen is 5'3" and her picture here is about 5'6" including the grass beneath her feet.

It really is amazing that this tree survived its early years while Keith was learning how to mow the yard with a lawn tractor nearly 30 years ago.

Here's an Elkhart Truth interview of Mom and Dad that I'm sure you will enjoy.
A Christmas tree for free

A Tight Squeeze

Seeing this today, one might suggest that PhotoShop had been involved in this tight squeeze..

Back in 1983, the only way to do this was to cram people into a real booth.

Thanks to Mike Drudge for finding this photo and sharing it. Many of these high school student visitors to the Museum of Science and Industry get together annually for dinner with our spouses

( Wanda, Kevin, Mike, Lori, Steve and Tammy )

NorthWood State Champs ( One week later )

It has only been one week since the NorthWood Panthers finished an excellent season and all who have ever been involved with that great program are just coming out of the shock....

Reflecting on the comments from the press, I know that those many years of anticipation created great character within all of us

• Indy Star report


• IHSAA got it right


• Elkhart Truth (Long Awaited Championship)


• Elkhart Truth (Community Celebration)


• Hoosier Authority

THANK YOU 2005 PANTHERS

BAVA 13 Year Old Team

Carmen's first year of club volleyball was eye opening for us. There was a great diversity in intensity from player to player.

It was quite a step up from Southern Middle School volleyball.

Mr. and Mrs. Jayme and Heidi Mathews

Jackie and I were the hosts of the reception at Jayme and Heidi's wedding. As if a wedding is not exciting enough all on its own, this wedding was special because of Cheryl's presence and even her ability to dance with Bill after such a difficult start to the year.

Many people prayed that Cheryl would be able to be at the wedding. Our family is very grateful for the blessing of life.

The wedding was picture perfect and intimate.
Heidi and Jayme rode of from the wedding in a huge horse drawn carriage that pulled up along the candle lit drive.

Elkhart County 4H Fair Queen Contest

Every July, the Etsinger blood of the Eby family heads back to Elkhart County to the 4H fairgrounds. This tradition is very strong for Jackie and she has transferred that successfully to our children.

In 2004, Bethany finished in the top five in the queen contest. There have been many Etsinger girls that have done well in this contest over the years.

• Shirley in the 60's
• Cheryl in the 70's
• Jackie in the 80's
• Heidi in the 90's
• Stephanie (Bethany's sister holding the sign on the left)in the 2000's
• and now Bethany

I believe that all of them represented the Swine Club.

Becca cheers for Bethany, but she will likely not be able to carry on that tradition from her Kentucky home.

Buster and Fluffy

Christmas Card 2003

We’re wishing you a Christmas as big as Texas

Saddle Up Your Horses!

We’ve got a trail to blaze through life’s little changes. At Christmas time, we’re reminded that the night of this world’s best change followed a long mule ride.

This year took us to Bandera, Texas and Twin Elms Guest Ranch. The Wild West was a great environment to get away from all the busyness of this world for a week.

We learned about the life of a cowboy in 2003 and the transitions that occupation has endured in the last 30 years.

Becca wants to move to Texas and keeps asking when we can go back to see Brick. This vacation was an opportunity for us to enjoy the journey while learning we can never really go back.

Carmen pioneered middle school this year. The academics are less stressful, but it requires more time in extracurricular activities.

Adam is doing well adjusting to stiffer academics and yet another sport.
Life is always full of adjustments, but for now, Texas is not one of those for us. God has a great deal to accomplish through us in Lexington.
We hope your accomplishments are many in 2004 wherever you are!

Grandkids on the Couch at Christmas

Twin Elm Guest Ranch ( Mama Bear Story )

In the afternoon, while we were letting the horses rest, we would go tubing on the Medina River that runs through the Twin Elm Guest Ranch.

There are many Eby stories from this river, but my favorite is the Mama Bear story. Pictured on the left are the three little bears: Carmen, Becca, and Adam (in the rapids, note the water level near his knees)

Well, one afternoon after taking our tubes to the pick up point, we went back to the river to skip rocks, keep cool and hang out. The kids love being in the water even though I would prefer to stay dry and take pictures.

Not knowing what was further on down the river made Adam very curious and the "rapid" current made Jackie (aka Mama Bear) very nervous. Jackie would continually remind Adam not to go in the rapids. ( note where he is standing )

Well, as Adam began to notice rocks and things in the river, he decided to lay down like Carmen was doing in the calm part. This is really were the story begins as young Adam can not get up. With water rushing over his back, he yells for help!

Mama bear leaps into action. Risking her own life, she jumps into the water with him and tries to help him out even though she herself may be drowned and carried away in the "rapids".

Panic stricken, now both of them are under the current with Mama bear unintentionally smothering her precious baby bear. Jackie yells at me still standing on the side of the river, "Aren't you going to do anything?"

Calmly, I suggest that both of them stand up instead of fighting the current. As they took my advice, they looked at each other and laughed.

Christmas Card 2002

Rumpa Pum Pum

from the Eby’s

There is a beat within us at our very heart that constantly reminds us of our importance to our Creator…

We are important enough for Him to send His only Son to die for us that we might live with Him forever

In this joyous season, we hope that you can celebrate your experience of life, reflect briefly and propose great things to come.

Inside this card, you will find renderings of the life beating inside of us this year as we experienced life on earth. Rumpa Pum Pum… God with us, God in us. Each of us Eby’s tries to put this passion into everything we do.

Colossians 3:23

This year we are especially thankful for many new friends. It is exciting to know that they will likely become as dear to us as old friends.

Wesley Woods Campout for Tatesbrook

Wesley Woods is a campground that Tatesbrook had used for several years in a row. It really became a tradition for us to camp there the weekend before school started back up.

Over the years, our church shared many memories there. Most of the memories come from the annual Talent Show and the ensuing marshmallow fight around the fire on Saturday night.

Other memories are those seen in the pictures here. The famous green scum that covered the pond every night and receded only slightly in the heat of the sun. Many paddle boat and canoe races were held on top of the scum and it seemed that every year someone would involuntarily end up scum covered.

There were snipe hunts at night.

There was alway work to be done for the parents with a short weekend of setting up tents, cutting dry dead firewood out of the trees, building fires cooking food, cleaning up, taking the trash down the hill, leading bible studies or practicing skits but there was a bit of free time as well.

The free time usually was consumed by a relaxing game of football in the afternoon sun.

Christmas Card 2001

Christmas Card 2000

Christmas Card 1999

Another Birth, Addition to our Family

This has been the most special birth that our family has ever experienced. It was the shortest and most painless labor and delivery. It was also very special to us because the new child was born in our own home. On 10-10-99, the Lord changed the heart of our 60 lb, 50 inch daughter Carmen Hope. She was baptized in November.

The new addition referred to in the title is a puppy. We picked up Buster from the humane shelter. We believe he is mostly a German Shepherd. You can judge for yourself.

Adam has been very entertaining this year. He is always making something out of nothing or destroying something of value. This summer a bunch of ants were making tracks to and from an ice cream sandwich Becca left in the garage the night before. All the neighborhood kids were concerned about how to remove the ants without hurting them. As soon as the kids left, he blasted the ants with RAID and posted this sign, using all the elements of his personality.

Carmen and Adam are both doing well at public school. Becca enjoys preschool for two hours on Tuesday and Thursday and this gives Jackie a chance to volunteer in Carmen and Adam’s classrooms. Here’s a collage of all the kids’ first day in school. All three kids have great Christian teachers, which is an answer to our prayers.

Our summer vacation to South Carolina was a highlight of the year. We saw lots of dolphins at the beach, lots of deer at the condo, a few alligators at a plantation, toured Charleston, visited with friends and spent a day on the USS Yorktown. It sounds like a busy week but it really was relaxing.

If you have spent any time with our family, you know that the oldest four of us are very competitive. Carmen and Adam are continuing to be aggressive athletes. However, God decided it was not good for us to always be in a contest and He made Becca. Becca loves to have fun. She loves to be pretty. She loves to encourage. She is our cheerleader. When everybody is negative, she is positive. Everyone was stunned at a basketball game when Becca shouted, “Adam, where’s your man?” Well, there are four of us against one of her. Eventually, we knew she would have to cave in, but so young. But no, she didn’t mean it. She looked at as with a Becca grin, indicating she wasn’t aware of Adam’s open opponent. She was letting us know that yelling is just part of the fun.

We have many things to be thankful for this year. In January, the Lord delivered on our prayers to become debt free. We have been committed to being good stewards of the money that has passed through our hands and God’s Word has a lot to say about that. I have been blessed with the opportunity to teach God’s basic principles of finances at our church. I am always thrilled to be a part of releasing Christians from any bondage to the world.

Jackie and I had a great time on our trip to Albuquerque, NM for Matt and Kim’s (friends from church) wedding. We had a wonderful time seeing, experiencing, and especially tasting the Southwest. Cable cars, desert, history, culture, a rodeo, concert and beautiful weather. Mountain biking will always be etched in my memory thanks to Scott (another friend from church), who demonstrated an incredible dive over the handle bars into a cactus. Ouch! We want to go back some year for the balloon festival and some more food.

We hope that all of you will enjoy your Christmas and New Year holidays! After all our family has received, it is still amazing to me that our God loved us enough to send His Son as a baby to earth to show us how personal His love is. He didn’t stop there, He allowed His Son to die on a cross to pay for my sins. Amazing. Not done yet, Christ rose victorious over death so that we might live victoriously now and forever. Amazing.

Kevin, Jackie, Carmen, Adam & Becca

Way Back Machine: New Puppy

In honor of a friend at work, I've decided to start a new set of blogs entitled "Way Back Machine".

Set your "Way Back Machine" to 1999 to see some of the first pictures of Buster as a puppy. He's an old member of the family now that resembles Uncle Bill with a graying beard.

The kids have grown some, too.

Easter Egg Hunt

Three energetic children posed for a picture before changing out of their Easter clothes on Sunday afternoon.

It was always difficult to get them to eat and patiently wait for one of us parents to hide the eggs.

Jackie always took a great deal of time to put together Easter baskets for the kids. I am always amazed at what a great mother she is.


Spring flowers make beautiful children even more beautiful.

Christmas Card 1998

I can’t believe that it is already December. Our family is getting older and a year goes by much quicker. I hope you all are enjoying God’s kingdom on earth as much as we are.

Adam started pre-kindergarten classes in the fall. He has the same teacher that Carmen had two years ago. Adam has matured significantly since starting school. He really enjoys learning with the other children three mornings a week. He is quite the artist. Everything is a creation to him; he may be an architect some day. He sings, dances and acts better than either of his parents. He asks his father to pray for him nearly every night. Occasionally, he moves his parents and grandparents to tears when he prays before meals.

Becca is talking but still sucking her fingers. Adam and Carmen imitate her and claim they are “doing the Becca”, but it doesn’t look near as cute. Her hair is so blond it is nearly white. It was just long enough to tie up in a sloppy one inch pony tail this year. She is still cute. She runs around the house chasing Adam all day saying and singing everything he says and sings.

Carmen can color like nobody’s business. She won a coloring contest and has been coloring more since then. The principal has selected some of her work to be displayed in an album to remember this school year. She is reading this year, too. She will read to anyone that listens. I especially like to watch her read to Adam and Becca. She is also developing some of that same antagonistic edge that drew her mother to her father. This part of Carmen’s personality is not so endearing when Jackie has to deal with the kids by herself all day.

Jackie has had what I believe is probably one of the most difficult years of her life. The Lord has blessed us financially the last few years as we have raised our family in 1280 square feet. Up until this year we have both agreed that God wanted us to become debt free. We had also hesitated for the last few years to look for a house because we were unsure of the direction He wanted us to go. In January, we both felt comfortable looking for a larger house in this area. Jackie was burdened with most of the looking. She rarely was even interested enough to show me a house, still, we drove around just about every Sunday afternoon for a season. In July, we gave up and decided that since God hadn’t shown us a house, He wanted us to be debt free. So we are still here and it looks like we will be paying off the mortgage in January 1999. All of these decisions have been stress producing, and it looks like 1999 may offer more of the same as we begin looking this spring. Please pray for us.

The last several years have been very difficult for our church. Until this year, we seemed to be shrinking in every measurable way. We are just now recognizing a turning point. God’s provision is so unexplainable. He has provided us with encouragement this year.

Our family has experienced first hand the desperate nature of a homeless young con man. I don’t know if you have ever read the book “A Man Called Norman”, but somehow God called us to help this young man for six months until we had to have him arrested to face the consequences of his actions. Adam and I picked him up several nights a week during the spring and summer after he got done cleaning a restaurant and would take him to the church to sleep. There were glimpses of hope in this young man that promised he would stop using people for his gain but ultimately there was too much hatred stored up in his life. The mistreatment that he received loomed much larger in his past than any helping hand or friendship in his present. I admit being afraid at times, often wondering if what we were doing was beneficial, but I believe a seed was planted in his heart and I know that God taught us to appreciate our family. This young man is still in our prayers.

We didn’t have a “vacation” this year but had several retreats to refresh us. We camped over Labor Day weekend at Mammoth Cave and visited our dear Bandy friends in Greenville. We also finally got to visit Bob and Kim Warren in Hardin this fall.

YMCA soccer was new this fall for Carmen and Adam. I coached Adam’s team and had a ball with a great group of kids. It only lasted six weeks and it went by fast. Carmen is playing YMCA basketball right now and is the only girl on her team. That doesn’t stop her from being the best defensive player and ball handler. The boys only teased her before the first practice.

Y2K has invaded almost every magazine, newspaper, newsletter or organization I am associated with. If I didn’t know better, I would think that there is nothing going on other than Y2K and our federal government’s self destruction. So here’s my take. Please be prepared to guide your families and organizations through this next year in a Godly manner. Don’t depend on anything other than God. And by all means, do not let anything else distract you from your relationship with God.

I have tried to raise my children as Boilermakers but it is very difficult when my wife dresses them like this and their friends wave NCAA championship banners in their classrooms.